Sex and Science

[bluegargantua]

Hey,

So what kinds of people get the most sex?

Strangely, both assholes and nice guys get lots of sex.

So, asshole or nice guy, which one are you?
Tom

Comments

[foxtown.livejournal.com]

Option C?

[bluegargantua]

I think Option C is "not so much sex".

Tom

[foxtown.livejournal.com]

Damn!

[bluegargantua]

I'd go with "nice guy", it's the safer bet.

Tom

[foxtown.livejournal.com]

Heh

[sweets00.livejournal.com]

Nice guy who does mean things?

Semantics

[zombie-dog.livejournal.com]

Linked here by goldenoak. Hi!

Your use of those terms raises an interesting distinction in my mind, actually, and I think it's a good one for discussion. Not because I think you're 'wrong' or anything but because I think it's a good roundtable topic.

Classically, I've heard the phrase 'nice guy' used to refer not to socially dominant friendly types, but to shy or submissive friendly types. When the stereotype that "girls always choose nice guys over assholes" comes up, it's generally referring to two polar opposites: warm, friendly submissives versus antagonistic dominants.

So... what does that make the socially dominant warm/friendly type? My first instinct was to say 'fun guy', which I think might work; it's about as shallow as the 'nice guy' appellation, and makes a distinction between soft kindness and boisterous warmth.

(what, then, is the submissive antagonist? 'iconoclast', maybe?)

Kinda makes me want to draw up a grid. Or an OKCupid Quiz.

Re: Semantics

[zombie-dog.livejournal.com]

"girls always choose nice guys over assholes"

... yeah, obviously this is supposed to be reversed. Mai baddo desu.

Re: Semantics

[bluegargantua]

I was being deliberately sloppy with my phraseology.

So... what does that make the socially dominant warm/friendly type?

My first instinct was slut (mainly so I could make the asshole-slut-asshole-slut Rocky Horror Reference).

later
Tom

Re: Semantics

[kadath.livejournal.com]

When a guy says "girls always choose assholes over nice guys," what he means is "girls always choose guys I think are assholes over me."

The only constant in your dissatisfying relationships, etc.

Option C:

[kadath.livejournal.com]

"Ass guys."

[woodwardiocom.livejournal.com]

So, asshole or nice guy, which one are you?

I'll let history be the judge.

[deadwinter.livejournal.com]

yes...yes indeed.

[bluepapercup]

I like nice guys' assholes quite a lot, thanks!

[drwex]

The hell you will *grin* (read any good game notes lately?)

It's an interesting article. I'm a little dubious on the inference about "avoiding monogamous relationships". I'd have to see more of the data to have any ideas myself but this one just sounds wrong.

Re: Semantics

[goldenoak.livejournal.com]

There really are some girls who gravitate towards charismatic jerks. Not all girls, certainly, but definitely some do.

(The why of that is obviously another complex question... Are they social submissives who have trouble believing that they deserve better? Did they have charismatic asshole fathers? Do they just have really terrible taste? I imagine their reasons vary quite a bit.)

I personally take amused umbrage at "nice guys finish last", since I married a nice guy, and prefer not to be considered a consolation prize. ;)

[bluegargantua]

You can be my salad chef any day.

:)
Tom

[mpgalvin.livejournal.com]

it's good to know one can occupy the venn in the intersection of Naughty and Nice.

cross-hatched for her something something.

[bluepapercup]

I don't know whether to laugh or blush. Perhaps both.

[foxtown.livejournal.com]

"cross-hatched for her something something."

To quote Wayne's World:

Eeewwww!

[woodwardiocom.livejournal.com]

read any good game notes lately?

[click, click, read, amused snort]